What I’ve realized for the last 10 days…

It’s been 10 days since not being active on Facebook. I only go on Facebook to post on my business page. Yes I did read a little on my newsfeed but that’s it.

I’ve realized that out of your hundreds of contacts on Facebook, only one or two will bother contacting you outside of social network. It feels like you don’t belong to the world at all. It makes you feel like you have no friends at all if you are not on Facebook. It’s sad that I’ve become a victim of social network addiction.

But let me tell you too what I’ve accomplished in 10 days not being active on Facebook. I’ve realized that there is more to life than being hooked online. Yes, I am writing here and sharing my feelings with the world, hoping people will learn from my experience. I feel free in writing here.

Today, I spent all day with my family without looking at my phone and I tell you, it was an amazing feeling. Family talking, laughing, no selfies, our daughter more engaged in conversations and listening to each other. We had a great time.

We spent our Sunday by the lake, at the Box End Aqua Park just in the outskirts of Bedford, and we had a simple family day. The hundreds of contacts I’ve had are gone but I gained control of my life, and spending more time with the most important people in my life.

A friend told me that my hundreds of fb friends will get angry with me if they don’t hear from me on Facebook. Why was I not bothered by that comment? Do I feel lonely without the hundreds of people who used to tell me ‘I love you’ on Facebook? NO, not at all. I only need two people to tell me that they love me and I know they mean it.  😀

After 10 days, still the best decision I’ve made.

No Facebook = HAPPY ME.  Proven.  😀

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Stop being racist to your own race…

I don’t usually watch Loose Women as I don’t get to sit down during the day from running around and teaching. But today I switched on telly and watched a topic they’re discussing – spray tan to look darker.

This topic reminded me of how people see dark complexion in the Philippines. Recently I stopped interacting with people on Facebook as I had enough of the madness there (see my previous blog about this – D Day). The same person posting about racism, criticizing her own Filipino skin. I said something about that post as I felt really offended. When I was growing up, I was always teased ‘negra’ (niger) because of being dark-skinned. People want to be white in the Philippines and in fact, only people with white skin are considered beautiful. That’s why I never appreciated my own skin when I was living there. It changed since I went to Europe.

I am still outraged by that post. That is being racist to your own race. Filipinos to Filipinos. White people in Europe, even kids, are obsessed with spray tan, sunbathing, sunbeds, just to get our dark complexion esp in Summer. But why does it look ugly when Filipinos have dark skin? And it looks classy on white people to have tan colour?

For Elite Filipinos with dark complexion, they see it differently than poor people with dark complexion. The first thing Filipinos see is the colour of the skin. That’s why skin whitening lotions are every where in the Philippines and you won’t be able to find a ‘normal’ lotion without the bleaching effect. It’s absolutely ridiculous!

When Filipinos see fellow Filipinos with a white man, they judge that Filipino as a hooker or someone poor trying to get a rich white man to escape poverty. I am married to a white man, British in fact, and I am well educated back home. I went to Europe when I was working as an artist/actor for a musical. That’s how I entered Europe, not because I married someone. But in the eyes of a fellow Filipino, I am just one of them. It is sad really. I love my country but the mentality will never change.

Thank you for reading. Let’s help each other fight racism. We are all the same as human beings. The most important thing in a person is having a pure heart, not by skin colour.

Cloverdale Retreat Café … Overpriced!

My husband and I visited this local new cafe at The Priory Marina in Bedford. We were going to have lunch there but we were stunned by how the prices of sandwiches and cakes. A normal baguette is £6.50 and a pasty would cost you £7.00.  Now that is too expensive. The prices on the website didn’t seem to be the same when we were there. The lady didn’t even say ‘check our menu, there are more to choose from.’ until we saw the menu.

So we ordered one baguette to share. Presentation was awful. Side salad looked old. Bacon was too oily in the baguette. Disappointing. The only nice thing about it was the tea and the view by the lake. But I find it overpriced.

Mowsbury Park cafe is better. Their prices are reasonable. Also Browne’s at Castle Road, their sandwiches and baguettes are half price than Cloverdale’s and presented well.

Cloverdale Retreat cafe is lovely, great place and location but overpriced. Imagine if you are with your whole family, you could be spending £40 easily for 4 people. The two of us spent like £15 for one baguette, one cake and two teas. Not worth it. That’s like going to Starbucks.

Singing lessons in Bedford…

New singing lessons flyer 2017

Fitness First – best gym in Bedford

I am not being biased by what I’m about to say. I was a long time member of Fitness First Bedford before I moved to another gym, and then went back to FF since my husband started teaching there and became one of the Personal Trainers. I left because of doing Body Attack classes and FF didn’t offer this class during that time. My husband, Garry, did it first and got me hooked doing Body Attack class.

But let me tell you how happy I am to be back at Fitness First.

First of all, there are no cliques and favouritism at this gym.  Instructors just do their jobs, teach, then leave when finished. No favourites among the participants who are always being featured on social media. This is why I don’t feature one person on my page, I always show group photos. There’s no bitching from other gym members talking about other people’s lives after a class whilst having a coffee together. You will not find this at Fitness First because they have no cafe, although you can sit down and have a quick coffee from the machine. But in reality, the atmosphere is different. At FF, People work on their fitness goals with PTs. People go there to have a good workout, have fun in class, relax in the steam room/sauna, swim, shower and leave when they’re done. No smell of poo or dirty nappies around the pool or changing rooms. More quiet and relaxing. Always clean toilets and shower rooms. People, esp the staff, are very friendly, always smiling when you come in, greeting you and saying Thank you after. Management is fantastic. They do team building games everyday to bring positivity in staff relationship. No tension. Everyone is very helpful. Personal Trainers are so helpful, giving free trial sessions and very friebdly. I have sat there and observed what they do. They are really good with people.

Fitness First have great facilities, affordable membership, great classes, great instructors. May not be as new like the newly built one in Clapham but in general, it is a good gym to go to. My husband, Garry Noakes, is teaching loads of classes at FF now. FF gave him the opportunity to explore and use his skills. Not just one class, but loads of classes within a year of being there. FF gave me the opportunity too to introduce FitSteps there without begging for it. They asked me if I’m interested to do a class as they knew I am a FitSteps instructor and they wanted to introduce somethng new. They are so open there and very welcoming. No promises broken. When they say it, they will do it. So Thank you FF. Your members are benefiting from it. I try my very best to justify the way FitSteps should be delivered.

Overall, I recommend going to Fitness First. You will get the service you are paying for. That’s for sure.  No one will compare you to anyone. They have the best Personal Trainers in town who will help you achieve your fitness goals.

So, what are you waiting for?   Call Fitness First Bedford. 0344 571 2811 and look for PT Garry.  😀  

18th May 2017… D Day…

D Day! D day I realized I needed my life back and make a real decision. Time to take control again of my life and focus on the important things. Facebook dominated people’s lives for so many years now, and I’m one of them. Not Facebook’s fault, my fault. I allowed it, we allowed it.
I am no longer going to be active there. I rarely pay attention on people’s posts anyway, but when I do, I directly say my opinion to the one who posted it, and I don’t go around bitching about it. Unlike some people I know, they are so patronizing on Facebook, but very good in stabbing you in the back too. I really speak my mind and whether you like it or not, I will say it. How you read my post is your responsibility. Here’s how I deal with things on social media – As long as my name is not mentioned, I will not take it personally. But if you name and shame me, you are banned in my life forever! You won’t hear again from me. I am not a war freak person, but I will just pretend you’re dead. I do defend some people though esp if it’s an act of bullying or racism.  Other than that, I mind my own biz. So why am I leaving Facebook then? Because I have had enough! It became so filthy.

I have been receiving non-stop private messages from people who sell products like dietary supplements, natural pills (as they describe them), but I am not interested in buying nor selling them. First, I don’t believe in any pills. Second, I dislike any artificial vegetable or fruit processed supplements turned into pills. Nothing is natural about that. I do not reply  to them but they can’t seem to read between the lines. Find a way of selling without annoying people. My mother was the best sales person. She had a great technique in winning clients, and maintain friendship with them. And during her days, there was no internet. Meet people, talk to them. Organize a party and introduce your products. Anything in writing is always misinterpreted. Believe me, I’ve learned my lesson.

People become too familiar about each other’s business on Facebook to the extent of competing against each other. Who leads a better life kind of thing. They just keep topping each other. It makes you really want to puke sometimes. I call it Bragbook more than Facebook. I’m guilty of bragging too when it comes to my family. I brag about them all the time. Though we’re not perfect, they’re my treasure. 😀

It was nice reconnecting with so many friends in the past and I had a great laugh with you all, but Facebook didn’t really do anything good for me. I lost friends because of it. At least I can have a normal morning now without seeing 20 selfies from the same person.  Either her face, her fat legs, her senseless posts asking for attention – no more of those unpleasant poses.

Most of all, it makes me feel sad when you know some people well and they post the opposite on Facebook, like who is this person trying to be someone she’s not? I know one who is pregnant at the moment in her mid 40s, telling people she is ok but deep inside she is depressed. She’s been depressed for so long that she won’t even acknowledge it.  Yep, keep convincing the world honey because that’s what matters to some people, how the world perceive them. SAD.

Facebook made me sick already. I can no longer let any social network control my life. I need to be in control, and that starts now.

D DAY!  New beginning…

 

A beautiful nightout with my hubby…

Watching Kinky Boots in London…  What do they call it?  Date?  Hahaha

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Strictly Come Dancing adventure 2016

A wonderful evening indeed. Mother and daughter time at the BBC, watching Strictly Come Dancing!

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Alyanna turns 15…

My beautiful 15 year old…   Our latest photo together…  #ProudMummy