18 years of happy marriage….

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My husband and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary yesterday, 22nd July. Our first wedding was in Uxbridge, London, in 1999. The simplest wedding you can ever imagine. We did not really spend anything on that day. We did our small reception at my in-laws’ house and had very few guests. Nothing fancy.  We did our big wedding in Manila, where my over 200 relatives live. Haha Yes, we saved our money for our big church wedding in Manila in 2000.

It’s been 18 years, and when you have a partner who loves you dearly with all his heart, accepting just the way you are with his unconditional love, life is beautiful. I feel that every single day since we got married. Of course, you can’t avoid the ups and downs in marriage but what makes ours different is we are together in every way. We have the same interest, same passion, same craziness. Our daughter knows exactly what I’m talking about. She grew up with a very loving atmosphere.

Recently, a mother and daughter, supposedly old friends whom I considered family since I lived in Germany, accused me and my family of faking our happy posts on Facebook. That I try to portray a happy life but in reality, I’m a vile person. Well, it’s my turn to hit back darlings and I am not sorry for what I’m about to say.

All my family and friends know, those who are close to me know that I speak my mind on social media. I don’t hide my feelings. If I am angry, I express it. If I’m happy, it is infectious that everyone could feel that happiness. I am probably one of the most honest person you’ll ever encounter. But to accuse me of FAKING happiness, that is them, and it’s something they obviously do and in fact, going through. They obviously feel so jealous of a great relationship we have as a family. I was obviously being watched closely by these people all these years without knowing that this is how they have always seen me – VILE.  Well, what can I do with that?

This person you’re calling horrible is the person who cancelled all her schedule every time you were around London, just to meet up with you and your family. This person is the person who saved her hard earned money for her trainfare, so when you’re finally over, she has money to pay for her expenses. This vile person never forgot to greet your birthdays on Facebook and kept in touch wholeheartedly. This person ignored your provoking comments on Facebook just because you hate her President. This person gave up her performing career to focus on family, and be there for her child, and always been happily married. This person is so loved by her husband that he pampers her everyday in simple ways. This person would rather have an enemy than be FAKE to anyone.

I just wish that they would look at themselves in the mirror first because they don’t look pleasant in my eyes either.

And eversince they found out that I am a Duterte supporter, they have attacked me on Facebook because of our political differences. Isn’t that pathetic? Politics, Religion, and friendships. Not a good mix really. They ruin all relationships. I don’t react on what they post on Facebook, but they always had something to say on mine.

Lastly, I am confident that all my posts on Facebook are genuine, honest, real and ME. What you see is what you get. That’s me. It’s a pity that some people are too jealous of people like me who can freely speak their minds. I really don’t care about who likes me or not. I have one amazing man who truly loves the real me and who sees me beautifully. All my posts about how caring my husband is, they are all true. For 18 years of our happy marriage, he made me feel special. Made breakfast in bed every single day when he’s around and not busy. He didn’t make me feel like a slave unlike other husbands who are so bossy, and just expected their wives to cook for them all the time. My husband and I have a healthy relationship, not perfect, but we are happy. We are together in every way, same interests in life. At least my husband is not a boring man. He’s fun to be with and not too intellectually boring.

Never insult my family. You know nothing about our journey and the trials we’ve survived. Our daughter is so proud of her parents, who are not couch potatoes at our age – just sitting down, pigging out, getting fatter and fatter, doing nothing. I am 46 years old, and my husband turned 60 last month. This photo was taken yesterday. Our daughter has the most hardworking parents inspiring people to take care of themselves, get fit, achieve their goals and be happy.

These people always talked about people’s lives. All I can say now is SAD. It is very sad that your true colours were just revealed now, when you have been feeling this against me for so long. I wasted my time and money travelling to London just to see you. Goodbye,  B family.  We will not miss you at all.  I never had a good laugh with your company, and that’s the truth! Call me stupid, idiot, but I’d rather be one than to pretend upper class with a pretentious accent, that is obviously Visayan no matter how hard you try to be Bri-ish. LOL

My advice:  Remove people in your life who are not happy with your success, and simply not happy for you. Never be afraid to be YOU.

 

 

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Remembering our Wedding day…

9th March, 2000 – our church wedding day in Manila, Philippines. It was our second wedding actually as we got married in civil ceremony in London in July 1999. We really planned our wedding in Manila as my family and relatives were mostly there. My relatives and friends came all the way from USA, Germany, Canada, UK, Cebu, Pangasinan. It was indeed a grand reunion of people closest to our hearts. Garry’s brother, Bob, came from London. That’s his first time in Asia and he had a blast.

I remember flying to Philippines twice in three months whilst planning our church wedding. I even spent Christmas with my family there and had a brilliant time. I don’t know how I managed to put an international entourage. All my best friends from childhood who are now in America, to High School, to College, were there. Out priest was the brother of my High School bestfriend. It was so special. But I guess when you know you have found the right person you want to be with for the rest of your life, suddenly everything seems to be easy.

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I was a beautiful bride, if I may say so. Ehem! Haha  My good friends made me look so beautiful in that beaded Indian silk gown, designed by my lovely friend. My make-up was just perfect as it wasn’t too dark, and it was very appropriate for a blooming bride.

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My parents were still around during our wedding day. My dad passed away in 2003, three years after my wedding. My Mommy passed away in 2012. Mommy was able to visit us in the UK, when I was due to give birth. She was able to enjoy her granddaughter, who was born in 2002.

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To my super loving husband who made me feel special all these years, I love you. I have no regrets after 16 years of being married to you. No one can ever replace you in my heart. Most of all, we were blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Happy 16th Wedding Anniversary, Garry!  ❤

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Our Christmas 2015

We had a fantastic Christmas! Hope you all had a great Christmas and looking forward to 2016! Happy New Year from The Noakes family!

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Thank you 2015…

This is the first I am writing to update all our family and friends around the globe the kind of year we’ve had. This year was all about moving on from our losses around this time last year. The last three years had been very hard for our family. My Mommy died in the Philippines in 2012, and just last year before Christmas, both my in-laws passed away. We’ve had the hardest test in our lives as Alyanna was very sad losing all her grandparents. But 2015 gave us a chance to breathe again, to move on and start our lives without Nan and Grandad.

Despite the heartaches, we just focused on our family – building our lives, finding light from grieving, and just staying together to support our girl. Not many friends understood it but we can’t do anything about that. We are only grateful to the ones who were there for us.

We are so proud of Alyanna for being such a good girl. We have received outstanding news from her school regarding her academic excellence and positive attitude towards her studies. We don’t know how she was able to balance her studies, dance exams,  dance displays, festivals, and at the same time playing the part of Dorothy in Showco’s production of The Wizard of Oz in Summer. The first half of 2015 was unbelievably busy. It was very hard but we were grateful Alyanna had all these activities to focus on.

Last Christmas, we were fortunate to be able to go away in the sunshine. It gave us a little break from the stress of arranging two funerals within a month. It was unimaginable! I saw how stressed Garry was, driving to London everyday, teaching his fitness classes and at the college, doing auditions for FLAMES (the musical play he directed). He was all over the place. See the job I had to do with my family alone? It was tough.

During Summer, both of us were doing our training  for my FitSteps and his Body Jam, and setting up classes. We still found time to take our girl out within UK to make the most of her summer holiday.  We both love our fitness, so now we got into teaching it as well (aside from other things that we do). Keeps us sane and fit. Haha Garry did a small musical play in London called FLAMES. He had really good reviews and hoping more will happen next year.

Blessings have already started and hoping it will continue in 2016.

May you all have a wonderful Christmas and All the best for the New Year!

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The Wizard of Oz by Showco Bedford

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The Wizard of Oz
Review by Sandra Samwell, NODA

This 1987 RSC adaptation of the perennial classic has become a favourite with youth groups up and down the country and it is easy to see why. The fairy tale plot and haunting score with its scope for colourful costumes and creative choreography make this a delight for the eyes and ears as well as providing ample opportunities for young actors of note.
Showco grasped the opportunity with both hands and made the show their own in a production which pleased at every level. Director, Rebecca Toms, and Musical Director, Chris Phelps, are to be congratulated on an assured and energetic show that made the most of the, largely, excellent facilities at ‘The Place.’
The picture book concept of the set, the live band and the large, but not over-large, cast of many ages from very young to late teenage delighted with their enthusiasm and their ability from the first Kansas moment to the last sighting of a rather splendid yellow brick road.
A cast headed by a most engaging Dorothy played by Alyanna Noakes guided us skillfully through the familiar songs, but also thrilled and frightened us when the need arose. Alyanna’s singing, as with all the other leads, was melodic and strong.
I particularly enjoyed Thomas Mullan’s portrayal of Scarecrow which combined adept physical acting with a personality that extended way beyond the ‘footlights.’ His was the stand-out performance of the show for me in something which boasted many very good performances.
For example,Ashley Miles as Tinman played the most thankless of ‘the three’ beautifully whilst Michael Cotter overcame a somewhat cumbersome costume and heavy make up to convey the humour and pathos of Lion most effectively. Felicity Spencer was a very sweet Toto.
I loved Cassie Dallaire’s ‘take’ on Glinda , one which gave us something of the 1939 film and the old style magic. Grace Craddock was a terrifying Wicked Witch. Emily Marchant,Jake Button, Jack Hartley- Booth, Theo Diedrick, Luke Marchant, Kia Diedrick and Ben Mullan all gave delightful performances of truth and conviction in their various and ,in some cases, multiple roles.
The well integrated and executed choreography allowed the action to develop without seeming like set pieces against a background of smooth set change and effortless continuity that marked out the professional standards of this company.
I have no particular criticisms except those relating to the piece itself where the libretto never stands up to close examination, some heavyweight costumes when ‘less would have been more’ in some cases (although the scarecrow might have benefited from a bit more stuffing!) and the setting of some action out of the audience sight line or in too much gloom with few faces visible. A few of the cast must curb their propensity to laugh or smile in the more serious scenes, but I put this down to the joy of being on stage and that is no bad trait!
Overall, this was a visually stunning, well played and well directed musical which would compare with the best of the youth productions seen nationally.
From a NODA point of view, I cannot fault the hospitality of the front of house team and the courtesy with which we were welcomed.
I loved this show and wish I was the regular NODA reviewer in Bedford! Well done, ShowCo.

Sandra Samwell
East District 1 NODA

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Goodbye Mum Jean…

 

Exactly one month after Grandad Ray left us, our beloved Mum/Nanny Jean joined him in heaven.

It was a lovely send off for Mum Jean last 4th December 2014 at the Breakspear Crematorium in Ruislip. Very simple but meaningful.
Thank you to all the relatives of Mum, who flew all the way from Ireland, travelled from Linconshire, and friends from London. So lovely to see you all.

Once again, we would like to thank all our friends who sent their condolences (for the second time), through my facebook posts, emails, text messages and cards. Reading your kind and inspiring words in times like this surely gave us more strength, love and light, knowing that we have such good friends around us. May you all continue to be a blessing to others and receive more blessings that you deserve. THANK YOU!

Mum, thank you for being such a loving mother-in-law. You have been my second mother for the last 16 years and I truly felt your care. Alyanna will miss her sweet and always fun to be with Nanny. She didn’t expect you to join Grandad so soon as she’s so looking forward to spending time with you this Christmas. Thank you for loving your only ‘apo’ so much.
Bob and Garry are very lucky to have you as their mother. You raised them both with so much love, care, and respect for you, and I have seen that. Your boys love you very much. Thank you Mum for everything. Rest in Peace.

Eternal rest grant unto Jean Banes’ soul O Lord,
And let your perpetual light shine upon her.
May her soul rest in peace.

We lift up to you O Lord our grief and sorrow, confident that you will change our mourning to rejoicing that our beloved Jean now rests in your peace. Amen

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Goodbye Chief!

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It was an emotional day for the family and special friends of Grandad Ray from Cottesmore House, who all came to honour his send off. Grandad’s wishes were respected – no religious service, no flowers, no singing. Only the American flag was there to symbolize his life in the U.S. Navy. It was simple, intimate, quiet, and actually very meaningful. Michael Gordon, who officiated the small ceremony, was very good as he read a brief life story of Ray and finished it with a beautiful poem by Henry Scott Holland. Robert Noakes (Bob), Garry’s older brother, spoke for the family and thanked everyone who came. Bob and Garry are just amazing esp in visiting their parents in two different nursing homes every week. After the short ceremony, the boys organised food and drinks at the pub across the crematorium. Unfortunately others had to go back to the Cottesmore House, whilst the family and a few friends stayed at the pub ’til evening. To all our family and friends who extended their condolences via cards, emails, text, and on Facebook, again, our heartfelt THANK YOU to all of you! Salamat po. xxx

9th March 2000

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Celebrating our 14th Church Wedding Anniversary… Church because we got married in 1999 in London before our Manila church wedding…

Thanking our beloved family and friends for the greetings… xxx

The Amazing LK…

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Marcia Carbonilla, is one of the professional pioneers of Philippine Baranggay Folk Dance Troupe from the Philippines, who has been training Lahing Kayumanggi Dance Company in London for so many years now. I have seen how these lovely people work so hard to promote our Philippine culture to the world, and it’s been an honour to have been part of the family since 2010, even as a singer (and sometimes dancer).  I admire how everyone devotes their Sundays to rehearse and do their best to master our Philippine Folk dances, and perform non-stop in the UK and all over Europe for the last 20 years. They have been seen on Paul O’Grady Show on TV, concerts, galas, charity shows, Philippine Embassy events, and have produced their big annual shows. They are performing in Manila this year to mark their 20th year anniversary. Lahing Kayumanggi, based on what I’ve seen and experienced, is the only ‘professional’ Filipino dance troupe in the UK that will warm every Filipino’s and British audience’s hearts with the graceful flick of their hands, the sensual sway of their hips, their warm smiles, colourful costumes and props, incredible music and chants, professional musicians from the Philippines, and the dedicated volunteers who work so hard every week to improve their dancing skills. Keep up the good work guys and always feel proud to promote our beautiful culture and heritage. The person behind LK is the Philippine Baranggay veteran himself, Ronnie Barrio, who dedicated his time in helping people and making LK a success!  To all the talented LKyans, well done!  So proud to have been part of this family! Happy 20th Anniversary! Mabuhay ang Pilipino! x

Alyanna turns 12…

Last 18th Jan 2014, our daughter turned 12. Yes, her last year before becoming a teenager. She didn’t know what to do with her birthday this year so I thought I’d just invite her friends to come over and surprise her after her last dance class last Saturday. She’s a huge fan of ONE DIRECTION, so it was all 1D theme. I don’t know how I managed to do all these preparations as well as teachings on that day, but that’s what all mothers do, MAGIC! It must be LOVE… 🙂

There’s nothing and no one else that I want more than my daughter, she comes first in my life, in our lives (me and hubby). Happy 12th Birthday to our dearest Alyanna! We love you so much! Always remember that angel….

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