18 years of happy marriage….

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My husband and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary yesterday, 22nd July. Our first wedding was in Uxbridge, London, in 1999. The simplest wedding you can ever imagine. We did not really spend anything on that day. We did our small reception at my in-laws’ house and had very few guests. Nothing fancy.  We did our big wedding in Manila, where my over 200 relatives live. Haha Yes, we saved our money for our big church wedding in Manila in 2000.

It’s been 18 years, and when you have a partner who loves you dearly with all his heart, accepting just the way you are with his unconditional love, life is beautiful. I feel that every single day since we got married. Of course, you can’t avoid the ups and downs in marriage but what makes ours different is we are together in every way. We have the same interest, same passion, same craziness. Our daughter knows exactly what I’m talking about. She grew up with a very loving atmosphere.

Recently, a mother and daughter, supposedly old friends whom I considered family since I lived in Germany, accused me and my family of faking our happy posts on Facebook. That I try to portray a happy life but in reality, I’m a vile person. Well, it’s my turn to hit back darlings and I am not sorry for what I’m about to say.

All my family and friends know, those who are close to me know that I speak my mind on social media. I don’t hide my feelings. If I am angry, I express it. If I’m happy, it is infectious that everyone could feel that happiness. I am probably one of the most honest person you’ll ever encounter. But to accuse me of FAKING happiness, that is them, and it’s something they obviously do and in fact, going through. They obviously feel so jealous of a great relationship we have as a family. I was obviously being watched closely by these people all these years without knowing that this is how they have always seen me – VILE.  Well, what can I do with that?

This person you’re calling horrible is the person who cancelled all her schedule every time you were around London, just to meet up with you and your family. This person is the person who saved her hard earned money for her trainfare, so when you’re finally over, she has money to pay for her expenses. This vile person never forgot to greet your birthdays on Facebook and kept in touch wholeheartedly. This person ignored your provoking comments on Facebook just because you hate her President. This person gave up her performing career to focus on family, and be there for her child, and always been happily married. This person is so loved by her husband that he pampers her everyday in simple ways. This person would rather have an enemy than be FAKE to anyone.

I just wish that they would look at themselves in the mirror first because they don’t look pleasant in my eyes either.

And eversince they found out that I am a Duterte supporter, they have attacked me on Facebook because of our political differences. Isn’t that pathetic? Politics, Religion, and friendships. Not a good mix really. They ruin all relationships. I don’t react on what they post on Facebook, but they always had something to say on mine.

Lastly, I am confident that all my posts on Facebook are genuine, honest, real and ME. What you see is what you get. That’s me. It’s a pity that some people are too jealous of people like me who can freely speak their minds. I really don’t care about who likes me or not. I have one amazing man who truly loves the real me and who sees me beautifully. All my posts about how caring my husband is, they are all true. For 18 years of our happy marriage, he made me feel special. Made breakfast in bed every single day when he’s around and not busy. He didn’t make me feel like a slave unlike other husbands who are so bossy, and just expected their wives to cook for them all the time. My husband and I have a healthy relationship, not perfect, but we are happy. We are together in every way, same interests in life. At least my husband is not a boring man. He’s fun to be with and not too intellectually boring.

Never insult my family. You know nothing about our journey and the trials we’ve survived. Our daughter is so proud of her parents, who are not couch potatoes at our age – just sitting down, pigging out, getting fatter and fatter, doing nothing. I am 46 years old, and my husband turned 60 last month. This photo was taken yesterday. Our daughter has the most hardworking parents inspiring people to take care of themselves, get fit, achieve their goals and be happy.

These people always talked about people’s lives. All I can say now is SAD. It is very sad that your true colours were just revealed now, when you have been feeling this against me for so long. I wasted my time and money travelling to London just to see you. Goodbye,  B family.  We will not miss you at all.  I never had a good laugh with your company, and that’s the truth! Call me stupid, idiot, but I’d rather be one than to pretend upper class with a pretentious accent, that is obviously Visayan no matter how hard you try to be Bri-ish. LOL

My advice:  Remove people in your life who are not happy with your success, and simply not happy for you. Never be afraid to be YOU.

 

 

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Family time

Sometimes it is unhealthy to read posts on Facebook esp if the new year has just started. Your optimism is being dragged down to a few people’s negativity. I don’t understand some people complaining about the kids being off school too long and that they can’t wait for the school to commence. Well, I feel the opposite. I wish the holidays can be a bit longer to spend more time with my hubby and daughter. We love spending time together.

Although we haven’t been away this year for Christmas, we had a great time. To be honest, it’s not the parties and days out that made my holidays, it’s actually the lazy days we had, all curled up on the sofa watching movies all day or playing board games (not pc games), or simply going for a walk. Simple things like that are priceless to me. I feel sad for those parents who can’t wait to get rid of their kids’ company. I’m a Mum too and I understand that we need a time out sometimes, but not after Christmas. When school starts, our kids are at school all day, and there’s less time to bond in the afternoon after school, that’s why we make the most of the school breaks and holidays.

Our (almost) 11 year old daughter doesn’t mind hanging out with us (I hope I am not speaking too soon lol). Kidding aside, she loves being with her parents. She doesn’t complain wherever we take her as long as we are together. She is easy. But of course, puberty is not an easy stage. I am not saying I don’t get a few issues from her, but in general she is actually easy. She is not a demanding child forcing us to buy her things she wants, nor throw tantrums at home when she’s bored. We are always around for her, and family time is very important to us. Our girl still loves sleeping in our bed, in between her Mummy and Daddy. Sweet. Not all the time though but we don’t mind. We actually love our family cuddles in bed with out little kitty Nala with us too. We know that some day, she’ll grow up and will have her own family too, so we try to cherish every moment we have with her. She knows that she is so loved, she feels it. 🙂

Our kids are only young for a very short time, so spend it well with them. People complain about spending too much money taking the kids out to entertain them. Who says you have to spend a lot of money to entertain kids? There’s no need to spend money to make them happy. Home is the best place to spend time with them. If they are spending too much time on the pc, give them a particular time to play games, and make sure to have time for family dialogue and fun. I don’t know what to do if my daughter sends me a text message to come upstairs and bring her food. N + O = NO! Thank God she is not on Facebook yet. So far, I am lucky that these things are not happening yet. I see a lot of kids on Facebook at the age of 6 or 7. I don’t get it. Our agreement with our daughter is 15. Let’s see if that happens. Fingers crossed. 🙂

All I’m saying is, if we find time for our kids now, they will find time for us too once that moment comes that we need their time for us. LOVE is always the foundation in the family. Show love, you’ll get love.

Nyt everyone… Spread love… xx