18 years of happy marriage….

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My husband and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary yesterday, 22nd July. Our first wedding was in Uxbridge, London, in 1999. The simplest wedding you can ever imagine. We did not really spend anything on that day. We did our small reception at my in-laws’ house and had very few guests. Nothing fancy.  We did our big wedding in Manila, where my over 200 relatives live. Haha Yes, we saved our money for our big church wedding in Manila in 2000.

It’s been 18 years, and when you have a partner who loves you dearly with all his heart, accepting just the way you are with his unconditional love, life is beautiful. I feel that every single day since we got married. Of course, you can’t avoid the ups and downs in marriage but what makes ours different is we are together in every way. We have the same interest, same passion, same craziness. Our daughter knows exactly what I’m talking about. She grew up with a very loving atmosphere.

Recently, a mother and daughter, supposedly old friends whom I considered family since I lived in Germany, accused me and my family of faking our happy posts on Facebook. That I try to portray a happy life but in reality, I’m a vile person. Well, it’s my turn to hit back darlings and I am not sorry for what I’m about to say.

All my family and friends know, those who are close to me know that I speak my mind on social media. I don’t hide my feelings. If I am angry, I express it. If I’m happy, it is infectious that everyone could feel that happiness. I am probably one of the most honest person you’ll ever encounter. But to accuse me of FAKING happiness, that is them, and it’s something they obviously do and in fact, going through. They obviously feel so jealous of a great relationship we have as a family. I was obviously being watched closely by these people all these years without knowing that this is how they have always seen me – VILE.  Well, what can I do with that?

This person you’re calling horrible is the person who cancelled all her schedule every time you were around London, just to meet up with you and your family. This person is the person who saved her hard earned money for her trainfare, so when you’re finally over, she has money to pay for her expenses. This vile person never forgot to greet your birthdays on Facebook and kept in touch wholeheartedly. This person ignored your provoking comments on Facebook just because you hate her President. This person gave up her performing career to focus on family, and be there for her child, and always been happily married. This person is so loved by her husband that he pampers her everyday in simple ways. This person would rather have an enemy than be FAKE to anyone.

I just wish that they would look at themselves in the mirror first because they don’t look pleasant in my eyes either.

And eversince they found out that I am a Duterte supporter, they have attacked me on Facebook because of our political differences. Isn’t that pathetic? Politics, Religion, and friendships. Not a good mix really. They ruin all relationships. I don’t react on what they post on Facebook, but they always had something to say on mine.

Lastly, I am confident that all my posts on Facebook are genuine, honest, real and ME. What you see is what you get. That’s me. It’s a pity that some people are too jealous of people like me who can freely speak their minds. I really don’t care about who likes me or not. I have one amazing man who truly loves the real me and who sees me beautifully. All my posts about how caring my husband is, they are all true. For 18 years of our happy marriage, he made me feel special. Made breakfast in bed every single day when he’s around and not busy. He didn’t make me feel like a slave unlike other husbands who are so bossy, and just expected their wives to cook for them all the time. My husband and I have a healthy relationship, not perfect, but we are happy. We are together in every way, same interests in life. At least my husband is not a boring man. He’s fun to be with and not too intellectually boring.

Never insult my family. You know nothing about our journey and the trials we’ve survived. Our daughter is so proud of her parents, who are not couch potatoes at our age – just sitting down, pigging out, getting fatter and fatter, doing nothing. I am 46 years old, and my husband turned 60 last month. This photo was taken yesterday. Our daughter has the most hardworking parents inspiring people to take care of themselves, get fit, achieve their goals and be happy.

These people always talked about people’s lives. All I can say now is SAD. It is very sad that your true colours were just revealed now, when you have been feeling this against me for so long. I wasted my time and money travelling to London just to see you. Goodbye,  B family.  We will not miss you at all.  I never had a good laugh with your company, and that’s the truth! Call me stupid, idiot, but I’d rather be one than to pretend upper class with a pretentious accent, that is obviously Visayan no matter how hard you try to be Bri-ish. LOL

My advice:  Remove people in your life who are not happy with your success, and simply not happy for you. Never be afraid to be YOU.

 

 

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Fitness First – best gym in Bedford

I am not being biased by what I’m about to say. I was a long time member of Fitness First Bedford before I moved to another gym, and then went back to FF since my husband started teaching there and became one of the Personal Trainers. I left because of doing Body Attack classes and FF didn’t offer this class during that time. My husband, Garry, did it first and got me hooked doing Body Attack class.

But let me tell you how happy I am to be back at Fitness First.

First of all, there are no cliques and favouritism at this gym.  Instructors just do their jobs, teach, then leave when finished. No favourites among the participants who are always being featured on social media. This is why I don’t feature one person on my page, I always show group photos. There’s no bitching from other gym members talking about other people’s lives after a class whilst having a coffee together. You will not find this at Fitness First because they have no cafe, although you can sit down and have a quick coffee from the machine. But in reality, the atmosphere is different. At FF, People work on their fitness goals with PTs. People go there to have a good workout, have fun in class, relax in the steam room/sauna, swim, shower and leave when they’re done. No smell of poo or dirty nappies around the pool or changing rooms. More quiet and relaxing. Always clean toilets and shower rooms. People, esp the staff, are very friendly, always smiling when you come in, greeting you and saying Thank you after. Management is fantastic. They do team building games everyday to bring positivity in staff relationship. No tension. Everyone is very helpful. Personal Trainers are so helpful, giving free trial sessions and very friebdly. I have sat there and observed what they do. They are really good with people.

Fitness First have great facilities, affordable membership, great classes, great instructors. May not be as new like the newly built one in Clapham but in general, it is a good gym to go to. My husband, Garry Noakes, is teaching loads of classes at FF now. FF gave him the opportunity to explore and use his skills. Not just one class, but loads of classes within a year of being there. FF gave me the opportunity too to introduce FitSteps there without begging for it. They asked me if I’m interested to do a class as they knew I am a FitSteps instructor and they wanted to introduce somethng new. They are so open there and very welcoming. No promises broken. When they say it, they will do it. So Thank you FF. Your members are benefiting from it. I try my very best to justify the way FitSteps should be delivered.

Overall, I recommend going to Fitness First. You will get the service you are paying for. That’s for sure.  No one will compare you to anyone. They have the best Personal Trainers in town who will help you achieve your fitness goals.

So, what are you waiting for?   Call Fitness First Bedford. 0344 571 2811 and look for PT Garry.  😀  

18th May 2017… D Day…

D Day! D day I realized I needed my life back and make a real decision. Time to take control again of my life and focus on the important things. Facebook dominated people’s lives for so many years now, and I’m one of them. Not Facebook’s fault, my fault. I allowed it, we allowed it.
I am no longer going to be active there. I rarely pay attention on people’s posts anyway, but when I do, I directly say my opinion to the one who posted it, and I don’t go around bitching about it. Unlike some people I know, they are so patronizing on Facebook, but very good in stabbing you in the back too. I really speak my mind and whether you like it or not, I will say it. How you read my post is your responsibility. Here’s how I deal with things on social media – As long as my name is not mentioned, I will not take it personally. But if you name and shame me, you are banned in my life forever! You won’t hear again from me. I am not a war freak person, but I will just pretend you’re dead. I do defend some people though esp if it’s an act of bullying or racism.  Other than that, I mind my own biz. So why am I leaving Facebook then? Because I have had enough! It became so filthy.

I have been receiving non-stop private messages from people who sell products like dietary supplements, natural pills (as they describe them), but I am not interested in buying nor selling them. First, I don’t believe in any pills. Second, I dislike any artificial vegetable or fruit processed supplements turned into pills. Nothing is natural about that. I do not reply  to them but they can’t seem to read between the lines. Find a way of selling without annoying people. My mother was the best sales person. She had a great technique in winning clients, and maintain friendship with them. And during her days, there was no internet. Meet people, talk to them. Organize a party and introduce your products. Anything in writing is always misinterpreted. Believe me, I’ve learned my lesson.

People become too familiar about each other’s business on Facebook to the extent of competing against each other. Who leads a better life kind of thing. They just keep topping each other. It makes you really want to puke sometimes. I call it Bragbook more than Facebook. I’m guilty of bragging too when it comes to my family. I brag about them all the time. Though we’re not perfect, they’re my treasure. 😀

It was nice reconnecting with so many friends in the past and I had a great laugh with you all, but Facebook didn’t really do anything good for me. I lost friends because of it. At least I can have a normal morning now without seeing 20 selfies from the same person.  Either her face, her fat legs, her senseless posts asking for attention – no more of those unpleasant poses.

Most of all, it makes me feel sad when you know some people well and they post the opposite on Facebook, like who is this person trying to be someone she’s not? I know one who is pregnant at the moment in her mid 40s, telling people she is ok but deep inside she is depressed. She’s been depressed for so long that she won’t even acknowledge it.  Yep, keep convincing the world honey because that’s what matters to some people, how the world perceive them. SAD.

Facebook made me sick already. I can no longer let any social network control my life. I need to be in control, and that starts now.

D DAY!  New beginning…

 

FitSteps at the Bedford River Festival 2016

Look at my FitSteppers now! They are performing people, performing!  Yes, and  infront of a big crowd after just a few months of doing FitSteps with me. We did a FiSteps dance demo at the Sports Village stage, and we were able to deliver the message we wanted to tell people about FitSteps and how amazing it is to dance. Wish all of my FitSteppers were on stage with us but I’m only allowed a few people to dance with me due to limited space on stage. What I love about my class is the mixture of levels/abilities/ages, and they just go for it. Some of them had background in dance, even a professional dancer, and others never danced at all, and it proved today that what matters most is that you are enjoying what you’re doing. That if you put your heart and focus into something you really love, you will shine in every way. To all my FitSteppers, THANK YOU! I am so PROUD of everyone, not just the ones who performed last week, yesterday and today, but EVERYONE who does my class! xxx

What an amazing weekend indeed!  Boiling hot, but brilliant!

My FitSteps classes in Bedford:

Thursday at Renhold Village Hall, 8pm  (£5 otd)

Friday  at Brickhill Community Centre, 9:am (£5 otd)

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